5 Steps to Fail Fast More to Live More

For those who know me well, know that it’s always my greatest hope that I will be able to help people lead more fulfilling lives— to boldly pursue what they enjoy, to passionately engage in meaningful work, and to embrace new experiences and the unknown.

The idea of ‘failing fast’ provides a simple way to transform your life through small, immediate actions. When you embrace failure rather than resist it, every moment provides the opportunity to: learn, experience, wonder, grow, create, appreciate, be surprised, share, and feel more connected.

Take this message to heart and have fun failing. The more you fail, the more you will live, and you deserve to experience all of the wonderful gifts life has to offer. To help you get started failing as quickly and frequently as possible, I want to touch upon some key ideas and provide suggestions as to how you can apply then, starting today.

1. Remember The Fun Factor

I can’t stress enough, the importance of building enjoyment into your life. By doing what you love, you place yourself in an appreciative mind-set that allows you to think more creatively, work more productively, and capitalize on unexpected opportunities. So starting today, set aside at least five minutes for unadulterated pleasure. Read an interesting book, get a massage, or enjoy one of your hobbies.

2. Do It Badly as Fast as You Can

Successful people have a knack for performing poorly. They deliberately seek out opportunities where they can face the limits of their skills and knowledge so that they can encounter the unknown and learn. In this spirit, we encourage you to find something that you have been meaning to do and to give yourself permission to do it badly right away. For example, you could shake your booty on the dance floor, deliver a really poor rendition of Mariah Carey at next weeks karaoke night, or attempt your first blog post.

3. Break from Your Routine

You are more likely to encounter unexpected opportunities and ideas when you are doing new things—trying activities, exploring unfamiliar places, meeting people, or being exposed to different ideas or cultures. So find a way today to step out of your usual habits and thinking patterns to experience new possibilities. For example, you might introduce yourself to a stranger, attend an offbeat play or attend an exercise class that you normally wouldn’t.

4. Un-Plan It

Successful people have a lean approach to planning. They find ways to take small steps in order to experiment, collect information, and adjust course, without the need for a huge investment or long-term commitment. With this in mind, rather than worry about your plans for the next month or year, focus on what you can do today. Take a small, immediate step related to your interests or aspirations. For example, you might talk to an expert, sign up for a conference, buy a book, or begin creating the prototype for your new product idea.

Do It Anyway

It is natural to feel uncertain, unmotivated, or fearful when facing new challenges. But negative feelings shouldn’t stop you. The best way to gain confidence and have a more optimistic outlook is to take action, even though you’re not feeling up to it. The next time you find yourself hesitating due to your negative moods, get going anyway. Go for a run even though you feel lethargic; invite a colleague to lunch even though you feel shy; volunteer for a project even though you doubt your abilities; or enroll in a challenging course even though you feel unprepared.

Now it’s time for you to get out there and fail as quickly as you possibly can. And then fail again. It is in the moments of failure that you will experience the greatest growth, boost your resilience and elevate your confidence to a whole new level.…

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How Resisting Change is Keeping You Stuck!

Over the last decade I’ve attended hundreds of personal and professional development events, seminars and training. One of my observations was that most training and learning doesn’t last. Here is what I mean; we attend a seminar and vow to transform our lives. We say we’ll be better parents, more effective leaders and wiser human beings.

Two days later it’s back to business as usual— seeing the negative, playing the victim and being cranky. The learning didn’t work. Why? Because we didn’t commit to change.

“No one wants to fail. So most of us don’t even try.”

Having helped many women create sustained change, build businesses they love and live lives they adore, I’ve come to identify four main reasons why people are so resistant to change. Even despite having the opportunity to do so, they don’t take the next steps to elevate their personal or professional lives.

With greater awareness of these four factors— you can make better choices. And when you make better choices, you are certain to experience better results. Big idea: Personal leadership begins with self -awareness because you can’t improve a weakness or a blind spot you don’t even know about. In other words, once you know better you can do better.

Here are the four things that keep us from making the changes we want to make:

Fear

 

People fear leaving their safe harbor of the unknown and venturing off into the unknown. Human beings crave certainty— even when it limits them. Most of us don’t like trying something new— it brings up our discomfort. The key here is to manage your fear by doing the very thing that frightens you. That’s the best way to destroy a fear. Do it until you’re no longer scared. The fears you run away from run toward you. The fears you don’t own will own you. But behind every fear wall lives a precious treasure.

Failure

No one wants to fail. So most of us don’t even try. Sad. We don’t even take that first step to improve our health or to deepen our working relationships or to realize a dream. In my mind, the only failure in life is the failure to try. And I deeply believe that the greatest risk you can ever take is not taking risks. Take that small step and do it fast. Failure is an essential part of realizing success. There can be no success without failure.

Forgetting

Sure we leave the seminar room after an inspirational workshop ready to change the world. But then we get to the office or back to the grind of ‘life’ and reality sets in. Difficult coworkers. Uncooperative children. Demanding clients to appease. No time to act on the commitments we made for personal and professional leadership. So we forget them. Here’s a key to success: Keep your commitments top of mind. Heighten your awareness around them.

Better awareness— Better choices. Better choices—Better results.

Keep your self-promises front and center. Don’t forget them. Put them on a sticky note or a cue card that you can post on your bathroom mirror and read every morning. Seems silly, works magically. Talk about them a lot because you become what you talk about. Write about them each morning in your journal.

Faith

Too many people have no faith. They are cynical. “This leadership training and personal development stuff doesn’t work.” Or “I’m too old to change. “Cynicism stems from disappointment. Cynical and faithless people were not always like that. The were filled with possibilities and hope as children. But they tried and perhaps failed. And rather than staying in the game, recognizing that failure is the highway to success, they shut down and grew cynical. Their way to avoid getting hurt again.

So there you go, the four F’s of why we resist transformation and showing real leadership within our lives. If you can understand them and you can then manage and overcome them. Because awareness really does precede success. And ordinary people really can craft extraordinary lives. I see it happen all the time. You truly can get to greatness. Trust me. But you have to start. And how will you know what you are truly capable of if you don’t even try?…

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